My knee-jerk reaction to such things is usually how to make objectification and exoticization work for me, haha. One can be crafty about it.

While I can see where the anti-porn feminists are coming from, I am extremely wary of people who say "THIS is how to be a proper self-respecting woman, and if you're not this, then you are fail". Feminism, like democracy, can't just be copypasted or imported wholesale to other situations. I tend to get frustrated with some feminist arguments because they can get so whitewashed, or Yankwashed, Westwashed, whatever. Gender does not exist in a vacuum!